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Wysłany: Wto 7:13, 26 Kwi 2011
Temat postu: What Is The Purpose Of Shame
me is the feeling that there is someone basically bad with you. Whereas the feeling of guilt is about DOING someone erroneous, shame is about BEING wrong at the core. The feeling of shame comes from the belief that, "I am basically flawed, inadequate, wrong, bad, unimportant, undeserving, or no good ample."
At some early point in our lives, most of us absorbed this false belief that causes the feeling of shame. As a result of not feeling watched, loved, amounted, and understood, we developed the belief that we were not being loved because there was something wrong with us. While some children were told aboveboard that they were not OK - that they were silly, bad, or undeserving - other babies concluded that there was something wrong with them by the path they were being remedied.
Once we build our core shame faith, we convert addicted to it because it serves us in two primary ways:
1) It gives us a feeling of control over additional people's feelings and behavior.
As long as we believe that we are the cause of others' rejecting behavior, then we can believe that there is something we tin do about it. It gives us a sense of power to believe that others are rejecting us or behaving in unloving ways because of our inadequacy. If is our mistake, then possibly we can do something about it by changing ourselves, by doing things "right." We hang above to the belief that our inadequacy is causing others' behavior because we don't want to accept others' free will to feel and behave whatever they want. We don't want to accept our helplessness over others' feelings and behavior.
2) It protects us from other feelings that we are terrified to feel, and gives us a sense of control over our own feelings.
As wrong for shame feels, many folk prefer it to the feelings namely shame may be covering up - loneliness, pain, sorrow, sorrow, or helplessness over others. Just as anger may be a cover-up for these complicated feelings, so namely shame. Shame namely totally alter than loneliness or grief or helplessness over others: While shame is a feeling namely we are causing by our own false beliefs, loneliness, grief, sorrow, sorrow, or helplessness over others are existential feelings - feelings that are a normal outcome of life. We feel grief over losing somebody we adore, or loneliness when we absence to connect with someone or play with someone and there is no an around or no one open to linkage, love or play. Many people would rather feel an frightful feeling that they are causing, rather than feel the authentic bitter feelings of life.
If you are discovery it difficult to move beyond shame, it is because you are addicted to the feeling of control that your shame-based beliefs give you - control over others' feelings and behavior and control over your own authentic feelings. As long as having the control is most momentous to you, you will not let go of your false core shame beliefs.
You will heal from your shame when:
1) You are willing to approve that others' feelings and behavior have naught to do with you. When you adopt that others have free will to be open or closed, loving or unloving - that you are not the cause of their feelings and behavior and you no longer take others' behavior personally - you will have no need to control it. When you let work of your need to control others and instead move into compassion for others, you will let go of your false beliefs about yourself that cause the feeling of shame.
2) You are willing to feel your genuine feelings prefer than cover them up with anger alternatively shame. When you study to nurture yourself along creature present with caring and compassion as your own existential feelings, you will no longer have a need to defend opposition these feelings with reprehend or shame.
Control and disgrace are intricately knotted together. When you give up your attachment to control and instead prefer compassion toward yourself and others, you will ascertain your shame fading.
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