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Don't worry, there is something you can do--in fact, you must do. Most of you have an idealized image of what good parents, good employees, good sons/daughters, good husbands/wives should be, and are haunted by these images of perfection. Rather than confront the comparison between the idealized images and your actual self, many of you feel inadequate and guilt-ridden because you can't match up to your own impossibly high standards.
You have a choice, you can either adjust your standards so that they more closely match reality or you can change your behavior. In the majority of cases, I would suggest you get rid of those ludicrous expectations.
What You Can Do:
Ask yourself: What do I value? What's most important to me? What do I really want? What do I need to change in order to have my values expressed more visibly in my everyday life? Is there anything I need to add to my life? Are there activities or commitments I need to eliminate?
It's actually less important to understand the meaning of life than it is to understand the meaning of your life.
Stress Management Tip #3: Set Limits so that You Can Better Balance the Competing Demands in Your Everyday Life.
What You Can Do:
Most of us pressure ourselves to give an immediate response when asked a question. But if truth be told, very few things require an immediate answer. Why not say, "let me get back to you," and take the time you need to decide if this is really right for you or if yo
Most of us are caught in a tug-of-war between who we think we should be and who we are; between what we want to do and what we're actually able to do. Our feelings of guilt often prevent us from taking care of ourselves. These feelings often stem from unrealistic expectations. Ignore your own needs long enough, and I guarantee, sooner or later Godzilla will emerge wreaking havoc and suffering on you,"Fat" Say it Loud; Say it Proud, your entire family, friends and co-workers.
We suffer under project and productivity overload at work taking on more than we can comfortably deliver in our desire to get ahead, impress people and live up to other's expectations. Meanwhile our top priorities go unattended to. You have to learn to say no to the things that don't matter so that you can invest yourself more fully in those things that do. Saying no is a way of caring for and honoring ourselves.
Guilt is a major roadblock to taking care of yourself. There's always a list of things that have to be done that take precedence over attending to your needs. Then there's the fear of who you'll disappoint if you occasionally make yourself a priority. But stop and consider for a moment that when you put yourself last on the list and allow guilt to run your life the person who you continually disappoint is yourself.
Remember What's Important. Define Your Priorities and Adjust Your Schedule to Reflect Your Values.
No matter how frantic life gets, no matter how much frenzy seems to be present, the truly successful people are able to rise above the pandemonium and maintain their perspective. They can do this because they know what's important. Their values are their compass--they keep them on course regardless of the chaos and confusion of life. These people maintain a vision of what truly matters, what their life is about and what they want it to be.
Make conscious choices about how you invest your time and energy. The solution to creating greater balance in your life is selectivity--it's about choosing. It's not about getting more done,How Two Kids Helped Invent the Better Behavior Wheel, but being more selective about what you do. It's about choosing quality rather than quantity. Life balance is discovering how to give more to your self. It's about doing what matters and to devoting less of yourself to what doesn't. That is our challenge. The solution lies not in the balance of our abilities, but in our ability to balance.
What You Can Do:
Stress Management Tip #1:
Stress Management Tip #2: Get Real About What You Can Actually Expect of Yourself.